The end of a marriage or relationship can be tragic enough. Often, the process of divorce litigation just adds to the pain. You and your spouse or partner may come to see each other as adversaries, and the divorce as a battleground. You may experience feelings of confusion, anger, loss and conflict. Under such circumstances, you might find it difficult to see how your divorce can be anything but negative, much less imagine a hopeful future afterwards.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a more constructive alternative to Family Court litigation: the Collaborative Practice model.
A collaborative divorce…
• helps families stay connected
• supports children’s well-being
• shelters couples from courtroom stress
• empowers couples to lead the process
• builds solutions everyone can agree on
Collaborative Practice is a reasonable approach to divorce based on three principles:
• A pledge by both spouses and their collaborative lawyers not to go to court
• An honest exchange of information by both spouses
• A solution that takes into account the highest priorities of both adults and their children.
Mutual respect is fundamental to the collaborative way. You may cease being spouses, but you don’t cease being worthy human beings. When respect is given and received, discussions are likely to be more productive and an agreement reached more easily.
Collaborative Divorce Hawaii Practice Group members are also proud members of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and adhere to IACP standards and ethics.